The Power of Words: How a Simple Phrase Changed Everything
Before becoming a mother, I often heard other moms talk about the self-awareness that comes with parenthood, but I never imagined how a simple comment could spark such deep reflection—and even fear.
A Comment That Hit Home
During a visit to Colombia with my daughter, my grandmother made a comment that struck a chord: “Don’t ask for too much; be grateful for what you have.” I’d heard this phrase before, but this time, it was different. I pictured my 10-month-old daughter hearing those words one day, and it terrified me. I realized the impact such beliefs could have on her future aspirations.
The Limiting Nature of the Phrase
Phrases like these aren’t unique to my grandmother; many of us grow up with similar advice. However, my work with female entrepreneurs has shown me that such words can create a conflict between pursuing goals and staying content with the status quo. For my grandmother, the phrase represented humility and gratitude, but it also stifled ambition and risk-taking.
How the Phrase Shaped My Journey
I only fully understood the influence of this phrase when I left home at 19 and started living independently. Whenever I wanted to aim higher or ask for what I deserved, a voice in my mind made me hesitant. This conflict intensified when I started my business, where I needed to think big and ask for more. It wasn’t until later, through therapy and self-reflection, that I realized these beliefs were deeply ingrained and passed down through generations.
Breaking the Cycle for My Daughter
Now, as a mother, I’m determined to change this narrative for my daughter. I want her to grow up believing she can dream big, ask for what she wants, and take up space in any room. Breaking this cycle means unlearning my
